I’m going to make a huge declaration, here I go:
I think women today are more ambitious than they’ve been at any point in history.
We’ve got big plans for everything in our lives, and we’re so hopeful about what can be accomplished. We all wanna be the Queen Bee – which is awesome, because there’s plenty-a honey to go around.
But, so many times, I see those ambitions thwarted when the realization hits that attention and recognition go hand-in-hand.
Yes, if you want the recognition that comes with being Queen Bee of your world – your family, your job, your career – you’re going to need to be comfortable with the idea that people should notice you.
Believe it or not, so many of us were taught at an early age that drawing attention to yourself was just in poor taste – but nothing could be further from the truth. You’re not Miley Cyrus trying to prove you’re a big girl now; you’re a brilliant woman, and you deserve the recognition!
So, how to get this recognition you deserve?
First, make sure you’re ready to receive it.
Then you work hard at elevating your look. This means making an effort to look slightly better than your peers – which so many women are just reluctant to do. But, therein lies the opportunity: nobody wants to upstage anyone else.
Look, this is really simple. It’s yours for the taking (if you want it).
If you work in an office, keep it professional on casual Friday. Seriously, it’s the perfect opportunity to send a message that you mean business. Your boss will notice, your peers will definitely notice. Keep it up and raises and promotions are all but guaranteed from this point on.
If you’re self-employed, just simply keep things dressed up every time you have the chance to do some networking. And, by “networking,” I mean any time you might run into clients, potential clients, competitors and referral partners. For me, in my little town of Costa Mesa, this includes every time I go to my hairdresser where will likely see all of the above.
Don’t think “networking” is limited to mixers. It’s called personal branding and Queen Bees do it consistently. [Tweet that, will ya?]
However, inevitably, once you start to elevate your look, someone’s going to look at you and say, “why are you so dressed up?”
This question irritates me beyond belief.
Since when did looking and feeling fantastic become an affront to people? It’s probably not nice to counter with, “why do you look like you don’t give a shit?” so, instead, try to convert that ridiculous question into a compliment in your head. It’s an easy mental trick that keeps you from backsliding your personal brand.